Welcome to The HookahAffair
Hey! Thank you for checking out TheHookahAffair.com
(proun: The Who-Kah Affair…click HERE if you still aren’t sure)
It’s likely that you are here for one of a few reasons:
- You know one of us and we told you about it.
- You were shopping for a Hookah and somehow stumbled on our blog.
- Your marriage or the marriage of someone you know is struggling and you’re looking for help.
Regardless of the answer, we’re glad you’re here but let’s assume it’s #3. In that case —
Has it been hard for you to find a safe community for you to be honest about what’s really going on at home? Let’s face it, it can be scary to talk about what’s really going on when the garage door closes at night, right?! Everyone around you seems to have a great marriage. According to Facebook, Instagram and even your church, you’re the only one with ‘problems’. Right?
We get it. No, I mean, we REALLY get it.
There is a really destructive tendency for married couples to quickly go from everything is fine to we’re getting a divorce! But we rarely talk about the stuff in between those two bookend statuses.
This site is a product of our desire to talk honestly about marriage — the good, the bad and especially, the ugly.
We start by sharing all of those aspects of our marriage. Really, we do. Keep reading and you’ll see.
Here is a fact about healthy marriage —
Healthy marriage doesn’t just happen
Nope, in order to have a healthy marriage, it takes work. But most people get into marriage thinking that it will just work itself out somehow. And you know what, you’re right…without working on your marriage, it will work itself out, but usually via a couple of attorneys, a judge, thousands of dollars (or more) and a whole lot of heartache. Either that, or you and your spouse will just accept your marriage as being sad or at the very least, mediocre. In our opinion, any of those outcomes suck.
Divorce is sometimes necessary but we believe that most couples are just a few steps away from having the marriage they really want and yet sadly, so many couples (or one side of the couple) give up instead of doing the work necessary to have a healthy marriage.
You may be dealing with infidelity (as the betrayed or as the unfaithful spouse) or maybe you are dealing with financial issues. It could be that you and your spouse are just drifting apart. Most broken marriages are a result of distorted expectations and a whole lot of baggage from our childhoods.
Many people are too prideful to be honest about how their marriage is really doing. Or maybe it is a natural fear of vulnerability.
But regardless of the reason —
We are really glad you’re here!
Here, we write about our struggles and the things we have learned and continue to learn about working through those struggles. So, while we may write specifically about our marriage, we know that there is “nothing new under the sun” (Ecc 1:9) and we aren’t alone with our problems. And guess what —
You aren’t alone either!
Just by visiting our site, you have stepped into a safe community where it’s okay (really okay) to be vulnerable.
It is our HOPE and prayer that God uses us to generate honest conversations and thoughts about where you are in your marriage or relationship so that you can avoid some of the awful things we have gone through in our marriage.
We have spent hundreds of hours in therapy and hopefully we can not only help you steer clear of some of the pitfalls we have experienced but we can also save you a small fortune on marriage therapy!
We have been married for over 19 years. Things were great, or at least we would have said they were great, for the first 13 years. But about five years ago, our marriage hit a brick wall and hit it hard!
We know that many of our homes are battle-grounds for struggling marriages. We know that because our home was just like that for several years.
We want to see your marriage thrive (God’s way) because we know that when your marriage is strong, it will impact your children and generations to follow.